Monday, July 27, 2009
Pretty Soon
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I'm Jus' Sayin'
I have been discouraged in my blog because someone recently summed up blogging in a play on a Winston Churchill quote saying, "Never have so many had so much to say where so few cared". To me, that thought just wasn't inspiring. It made me get confused and think several things.
One, do I care HOW MANY people care, as long as they care? Of course not. However, I am the type of person, that if I am talking to you and can tell you don't care what I am saying or that you aren't listening, I can quit mid-sentence and move on with my life. So, do I care if others care what I have to say? More importantly, do I care how many care about what I have to say? I hit those walls of questions with no answers and went into writer's hiatus. You'll see several starts of blogs I wanted to do below, you'll see my being plagued by that Churchill comment and you'll be unrequited...if you care......
This past weekend, I watched a movie that made me realize that it is the really big things in life that make you see the small things. The big things aren't necessarily the important things, but the small things are what's important. It was the stupidest movie ever, which is why my mind wondered into that epiphany. Want to know more? Then, hey, maybe you care.......however, that stupid quote from above haunts me and so I stop that thought.
Tenth grade English...........stream of conscience writing...........magical ability that lies within everyone...........it is the secret of writing..........want to know how to tap into that...........do you care.................the quote. prohibits. me. from. sharing. that......
If you were in a car and knew it wouldn't go off the road, would you even need to work at keeping the car going? Would you work at keeping it in the lane? JK8 saga...........maybe if divorce had been viewed as a option, they'd have worked harder to keep their "car" on the road. Divorce, irregardless of religious jargon, is always an option. Thank God for it in many people's lives. It's their perogative. Though I've never been divorced, I'm not anti-divorce. How many people who are divorced probably never considered it an option until it became a "have to". If you don't consider it an option, you won't work at avoiding it..........I think I'm right on that. I feel strongly that if you know something can't be taken away, you'll just bitterly exist in a prison that isn't really a prison and eventually you'll burst of out of that prison with a run in such an opposite direction that there will be no coming back. Divorce is an option. If it is to be avoided, it must be acknowledged. You can't take the "head in the sand" approach on that, otherwise, you'll be blindsighted by something you hadn't even explored. Accountants know that to catch a thief, you have to be trained in at least, knowing how to think like one............therefore, if you don't look at divorce and the ramifications of it......you'll end up in it and won't realize the energy you were putting in to not even acknowledging it could have been used in preventing it................said more than Churchill would have wanted there...............I'mjussayin'
Chivalry AIN'T dead. Knights are extinct. Chilvarly is not. Everyone desires courtship behavior. "I'm a guy just lost in myself, doing my thing, she's okay with it" is JUNK. Google manners. Use them. I'm just sayin.............more than Churchill cared to hear............
One, do I care HOW MANY people care, as long as they care? Of course not. However, I am the type of person, that if I am talking to you and can tell you don't care what I am saying or that you aren't listening, I can quit mid-sentence and move on with my life. So, do I care if others care what I have to say? More importantly, do I care how many care about what I have to say? I hit those walls of questions with no answers and went into writer's hiatus. You'll see several starts of blogs I wanted to do below, you'll see my being plagued by that Churchill comment and you'll be unrequited...if you care......
This past weekend, I watched a movie that made me realize that it is the really big things in life that make you see the small things. The big things aren't necessarily the important things, but the small things are what's important. It was the stupidest movie ever, which is why my mind wondered into that epiphany. Want to know more? Then, hey, maybe you care.......however, that stupid quote from above haunts me and so I stop that thought.
Tenth grade English...........stream of conscience writing...........magical ability that lies within everyone...........it is the secret of writing..........want to know how to tap into that...........do you care.................the quote. prohibits. me. from. sharing. that......
If you were in a car and knew it wouldn't go off the road, would you even need to work at keeping the car going? Would you work at keeping it in the lane? JK8 saga...........maybe if divorce had been viewed as a option, they'd have worked harder to keep their "car" on the road. Divorce, irregardless of religious jargon, is always an option. Thank God for it in many people's lives. It's their perogative. Though I've never been divorced, I'm not anti-divorce. How many people who are divorced probably never considered it an option until it became a "have to". If you don't consider it an option, you won't work at avoiding it..........I think I'm right on that. I feel strongly that if you know something can't be taken away, you'll just bitterly exist in a prison that isn't really a prison and eventually you'll burst of out of that prison with a run in such an opposite direction that there will be no coming back. Divorce is an option. If it is to be avoided, it must be acknowledged. You can't take the "head in the sand" approach on that, otherwise, you'll be blindsighted by something you hadn't even explored. Accountants know that to catch a thief, you have to be trained in at least, knowing how to think like one............therefore, if you don't look at divorce and the ramifications of it......you'll end up in it and won't realize the energy you were putting in to not even acknowledging it could have been used in preventing it................said more than Churchill would have wanted there...............I'mjussayin'
Chivalry AIN'T dead. Knights are extinct. Chilvarly is not. Everyone desires courtship behavior. "I'm a guy just lost in myself, doing my thing, she's okay with it" is JUNK. Google manners. Use them. I'm just sayin.............more than Churchill cared to hear............
Overrated
I remember when I first heard the word overrated and actually got the concept of something being "overrated". Oh, how I loved that concept. I could liberally label anything or anyone as overrated and felt better about having categorically defined things.
This elated discovery stuck with me for only a short time when I equated it to the fable of "The Fox and the Grapes". Often times, I was labeling something as overrated because I couldn't attain it, but really wanted it. So, if I gave it a "well, I never really wanted that anyway", then I'd feel better and move on.
Or, would I?
Is being wealthy overrated? Is being beautiful overrated? Is being at the top of your job field overrated? Is being married overrated? Is being famous overrated? Is being a parent overrated? Is having a great family overrated? Is having a recollection of a great childhood overrated?
I might say that being wealthy/famous, for instance, after watching a few episodes of "E! True Hollywood Story" is overrated. However, how would I know something was "overrated" if I hadn't ever really walked that walk? If I watch an episode of "Cribs", I think that 30 minutes in that lifestyle would be so NOT overrated, however, 30 minutes is about all I can take before I've seen all I wanted to see. I have no desire after seeing their lavish lifestyle to "miss" the person. So, would that mean I could lop "fancy house, fancy cars" into my "overrated" slot? Not, if I truly believe you have to walk the walk before categorizing it.
Therefore, I learned that my newfound attachment to the stamping of "overrated" was not overrated, but rather underrated. You have to have some significant experience with something in order to label it overrated and quite frankly, I hadn't any significant experience with being rich or famous.
I could say, with certainty, that a Light Bright, an Etch-A-Sketch, and college life were overrated. The benefits of college, of course, were not overrated. You strive for college life as high schooler to be able to live as an adult while someone else foots the bill. Now, for many people this is how it works and the only thing "overrated" about it is the morning after some of their wild charades. (Yes, that statement was from the mouth of an assuming prude, right?)
However, college life for me was 100% overrated. I did not live on campus. I was an education major which had zero value to some of my family that thought you should make six figures your first year out of college. I worked two jobs. I was so tired half the time, I wasn't sure when I answered the phone at my job if I was at job A or job B. I NEVER had money. I actually had a tab at a local diner in Red Bank so that I could eat between my jobs.
So, college life for me was overrated. I can say that with all the experience in the world. Could I tell that to someone else? No, it wouldn't be fair. They may have a different experience and who would I be to detour them from that opportunity. In addition, the education you get drastically changes your path, for some people. See, I am even eluding to the fact that the college education itself, for some because of their lives, could be overrated. It might even be a financial burden they wouldn't have otherwise acquired. It's all in the person's experience.
Furthermore, a Light Bright and an Etch-A-Sketch, for example, were unequivocally overrated, to me. Who can remember their first encounter with "overrated". I can, possibly because I've drawn on this connection because of my fascination with the concept of "overratedness". At seven or eight, I had wanted them, saved up for them, gotten them and found the level at which they were enjoyable to me to be less than exciting or even unfulfilling. Those two "showy" toys were overrated. The child on TV.... looking like they were having hours of fun with a newfound talent..... (albeit the talent was absolutely in a zero demand with no future of helping them with anything) was such a magnetic pull that when I got the box with many black sheets of guide dot paper, oodles of pegs and a plug in peg board, it stunk to high heaven that I couldn't make use of it---at all. I could go on and on about being able to do nothing with an Etch-A-Sketch, maybe a primitive house drawing or, if you had an easy name, that could appear, but really, it could go with my Rubics Cube and other 'funless' toys. Suddenly, the commericals didn't even come on anymore and I couldn't even remember why I wanted those things. So, I discovered the experience of the word overrated before I ever knew I couldn't just make flippant use of it.
So, I'd definitely say that being a grown up is overrated. It comes with a certain degree of freedom, yes, but so much more that could be sailed like a Plinko chip from Price Is Right into the "overrated" column.
Might it be that we, as grown ups, bring problems on ourselves, therefore making what we don't have the grapes high in the tree? Do we spend too much time focusing on what we "don't" want or "can't have".
So, overratedness....it's really just all those things we spend time loathing because some part of us really wanted to attain it, master it or be the one to 'trade up' from it..........just a thought.
This elated discovery stuck with me for only a short time when I equated it to the fable of "The Fox and the Grapes". Often times, I was labeling something as overrated because I couldn't attain it, but really wanted it. So, if I gave it a "well, I never really wanted that anyway", then I'd feel better and move on.
Or, would I?
Is being wealthy overrated? Is being beautiful overrated? Is being at the top of your job field overrated? Is being married overrated? Is being famous overrated? Is being a parent overrated? Is having a great family overrated? Is having a recollection of a great childhood overrated?
I might say that being wealthy/famous, for instance, after watching a few episodes of "E! True Hollywood Story" is overrated. However, how would I know something was "overrated" if I hadn't ever really walked that walk? If I watch an episode of "Cribs", I think that 30 minutes in that lifestyle would be so NOT overrated, however, 30 minutes is about all I can take before I've seen all I wanted to see. I have no desire after seeing their lavish lifestyle to "miss" the person. So, would that mean I could lop "fancy house, fancy cars" into my "overrated" slot? Not, if I truly believe you have to walk the walk before categorizing it.
Therefore, I learned that my newfound attachment to the stamping of "overrated" was not overrated, but rather underrated. You have to have some significant experience with something in order to label it overrated and quite frankly, I hadn't any significant experience with being rich or famous.
I could say, with certainty, that a Light Bright, an Etch-A-Sketch, and college life were overrated. The benefits of college, of course, were not overrated. You strive for college life as high schooler to be able to live as an adult while someone else foots the bill. Now, for many people this is how it works and the only thing "overrated" about it is the morning after some of their wild charades. (Yes, that statement was from the mouth of an assuming prude, right?)
However, college life for me was 100% overrated. I did not live on campus. I was an education major which had zero value to some of my family that thought you should make six figures your first year out of college. I worked two jobs. I was so tired half the time, I wasn't sure when I answered the phone at my job if I was at job A or job B. I NEVER had money. I actually had a tab at a local diner in Red Bank so that I could eat between my jobs.
So, college life for me was overrated. I can say that with all the experience in the world. Could I tell that to someone else? No, it wouldn't be fair. They may have a different experience and who would I be to detour them from that opportunity. In addition, the education you get drastically changes your path, for some people. See, I am even eluding to the fact that the college education itself, for some because of their lives, could be overrated. It might even be a financial burden they wouldn't have otherwise acquired. It's all in the person's experience.
Furthermore, a Light Bright and an Etch-A-Sketch, for example, were unequivocally overrated, to me. Who can remember their first encounter with "overrated". I can, possibly because I've drawn on this connection because of my fascination with the concept of "overratedness". At seven or eight, I had wanted them, saved up for them, gotten them and found the level at which they were enjoyable to me to be less than exciting or even unfulfilling. Those two "showy" toys were overrated. The child on TV.... looking like they were having hours of fun with a newfound talent..... (albeit the talent was absolutely in a zero demand with no future of helping them with anything) was such a magnetic pull that when I got the box with many black sheets of guide dot paper, oodles of pegs and a plug in peg board, it stunk to high heaven that I couldn't make use of it---at all. I could go on and on about being able to do nothing with an Etch-A-Sketch, maybe a primitive house drawing or, if you had an easy name, that could appear, but really, it could go with my Rubics Cube and other 'funless' toys. Suddenly, the commericals didn't even come on anymore and I couldn't even remember why I wanted those things. So, I discovered the experience of the word overrated before I ever knew I couldn't just make flippant use of it.
So, I'd definitely say that being a grown up is overrated. It comes with a certain degree of freedom, yes, but so much more that could be sailed like a Plinko chip from Price Is Right into the "overrated" column.
Might it be that we, as grown ups, bring problems on ourselves, therefore making what we don't have the grapes high in the tree? Do we spend too much time focusing on what we "don't" want or "can't have".
So, overratedness....it's really just all those things we spend time loathing because some part of us really wanted to attain it, master it or be the one to 'trade up' from it..........just a thought.
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